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May 11 2005 .Dailyrecord


He dishes out sex advice to youngsters

R&B star Lemar is dishing out sex advice to his young fans.

The singer, who plays Live+Loud in Glasgow next month, has even included a song on his new album that tells kids it's okay to say no.

The Fame Academy runner-up said he felt he should use tracks on Time To Grow to help youngsters make the right choices in life.

He said: 'On my new album, I felt that I could make some important statements, deal with real issues that are affecting people.

'I am in a privileged position. I have a voice and can make my opinions known if I need to.'

Lemar was brought up strictly by his Nigerian parents, who taught him that an education was all-important.

But he still looks back on his school years as the best of his life and is keen his young fans aren't led astray.

'I think there are a lot of negative messages in music for young people today,' said the singer.

'On Don't Give It Up, I am saying that it's okay to say no to sex.There is a lot of pressure to grow up too quickly.

'It is not just about under-age sex. Sometimes teens think their friends are doing it, so they have to as well. They are too afraid to ask for advice.'

While rival pop acts have been hogging the tabloid headlines, Lemar has worked at making himself heard on the international music scene.

He is one of the main attractions at Live+Loud when it hits Hampden Park on June 26, and he is loving his success.

He said: 'It is powerful to be in this position.

'Now I've headlined my own national tour, I'm enjoying major exposure throughout Europe and the world, and getting requests to work with the biggest names in the business.'

Despite his success, he has managed to keep his own love life strictly private.

He has had the same girlfriend for 10 years - teen sweetheart Charmaine Powell, who has given him the stability to focus on his music.

He said: 'The lady in my life likes to stay out of the limelight.

'It is difficult being away from her on tour, and being away from family and friends.

'It is one of the downsides to fame,- but you just have to learn to deal with it.'

Lemar will join McFly, Rooster, Rachel Stevens and KT Tunstall at Live+Loud with One Scotland

What the title of this song.. I wanna get it!

I hadn't realised he'd been with the same girl for ten years. He sounds very grounded and nice to hear he is giving out good advice to young people. Well IMO anyway!

HC, I've prob beaten CC in saying that it's OK to say 'NO' to sex only if it's offered in the first place...
(love you really)

And when you get married you choose voluntarely to have sex whether you wanted or not, no chances to say anymore NO to sex
Maybe it's difficult to stay away from his lady on tour but distance keeps relationship sometimes fresh and in some cases not

aww tasty you big softie



tthats a definate no to you then

that's not what you said last weekend

*note to self. Remember to ask the guys name next time*

I think it's quite good of Lemar to be doing this, but i suppose this might only get through to the people that are fans of his. But here's hoping that people who aren't fans of his, also get the message as well.

I feel that it is important to get the message through to young teenagers and hope that they do listen to the message that he is aiming to put across.

The last thing the teenagers of today need is being told what to do by older people.

Teenagers are well aware of what their choices are, they don't need to be dictated to by anyone, least of all some B-list pop singer. Todays generation are more aware of things than any previous one.

Once again we have the 'moralists' arguing against anything that might lead to pleasure. Heaven forbid if someone does something that makes them feel good ! The UK's obsession with sex is just pitiful, we are still psychologically a century behind the Scandinavian countries where things are so much more culturally advanced. Yes, thats right, they are culturally superior to the UK, even the data support on it, in terms of standard of living, abortions, etc.
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Calrissian: Flying the flag for the youth of the 21'st century.

IYO Calrissian!

I think there can be tremendous pressure to say yes just to fit in and STD's like chlamidia (sp) are wll known to be higher than ever before. This can lead to making people sterile so for the sake of a quick shuflle at about 15/16, a girl (because thats all she is) can go on to possibly never be able to have children. My guess is that she would rather in hindsight wish that someone had told her it was ok to say no in the first pace.

It worries me that if my daughter went into school and needed an asprin for a headache would not be given it without my consent but if she needed confidential advice on how to go about getting an abortion it would more than likely be readily availabe and I need never be told Thank goodness I talk to her about such matters and thank goodness for people like Lemar who isn't afraid to stand up and say think twice before you end up having sex with someone without thinking through the mass of possible consequences.

There ARE consequences to having sex too young and many, many young people on hindsight often say they wish they had waited until they were emotionally ready.

Well said HC

yes, some people seem to be in such a rush to have sex but I just don't see why.

I have a rather strong belief on the matter that I don't particularly want to go into but there is a girl in my year who's pregnant at the moment. she used to sit infront of my in history and I remember one day speaking about who wanted kids in a group (the teacher was out the room ) and she said she didn't even want children when she was older can't stand that girl though, she bullied my friend.

HC, your comment is universal and great! Pregnancy isn't the only thing that women can get from her partner - diseaseas are scary!

I have also heard that the more you have had sexual contacts during your life the boring your sexual life will be (poor Jason from BB5).

But it's ridiculous these days also when people divorce and get married time after time and have children: I have a neighbohour that got divorced and married and pregnant again (her fourth child) in her 40s. Pretty soon after her baby was born, her daughter got pregnant (in the age of 19) and it was really diffucult time to my neighbohour to live through that thing that she's mother of a newborn child and grandmother at the same time!