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hehe HD! No I don't exactly feel 'used' - it's annoying at times but most of the time it's cool!

Maybe someone really should write a book: "She's just not that into you" as someone of you suggested previously! There are plenty of poor men that women are not interested in really and sometimes those women wish that there should be another ways to tell these men that fact!

I think it's great that men and women communicate differently and through the years you'll learn to understand their ways to communicate if you are interested and curious enough.

I have never waited any man, I have always lived my life.

If man is interested he'll try to catch you like the ages of the cave dwellers, women shouldn't ever try to waite or try to catch any men.

Women should live their own lives and enjoy every moment. And when it's time to settle down, have family life with kids, you'll just know it. One lifetime isn't enough to get to know your partner thoroughly

I think I had mine pretty much sussed ..that's why he is an ex now

Oi - I only date men that are interesting enough and challenging ones - I don't date men that are too simply or too easy to get to know - because I'm not either. And when I do a commitment (dating isn't a commitment for me if the man hasn't proposed to me and we're after that in gaze) - I'll do it for a long term. I'm old-fashioned when I'm serious, otherwise I'm really hard to catch and stop for a relationship and not at all serious. It's better watch than regret! I don't support devorces, but never say never: If you have violence or some other nonchalant behaviour in your relationship, it makes everything different! But if people change their partners just for fun and because they are just bored - they should look at the mirror themselves

Off topic alert. Well!

I'm nearly finished reading it

*back on topic *

Thank you Big Brother - maybe it's time to turn this thread back "on topic"
Isn't that obvious that "He's not that in to you" - all the time - I can't understand why some women waste their time to someone who's not in to them in the first place
I was just writing that I haven't wasted my time ever, I've been given chances, but that's it and I believe that one of the reasons that I've been lucky in love is my attitude. At the moment I'm really happy for my sister-in-law who's getting married and wish that she could have children at the age of 37 which she has been dreaming for years. Her last companion didn't want any children and she lived in that relationship over ten years and she was feeling sad all the time through those years.
I just changed other opinions with CC as it happens all the time on these web-sites!

You're completely right Mari A - some people (and I'm sure we've all been guilty of it at some point) just can't see the wood for the trees. It's a shame for both people involved of course, for different reasons.

Or just can't see the sea for the fish

I'm sorry for those people who don't have courage during their whole lifetime to take their chances (intuition is a great instinct) when they have chance in front of them (there's lot of Mr and Miss right-ones to everyone in this world) or they are too critical or have too many demands or are already too inflexible - there's nothing sure in love and there's nothing sensible in love but it still exist and some people finds it eventhought love hurts as well because their hearts are open - but they should avoid obsessions if someone isn't that in to them. Playing with the fire isn't really safe.

I have personally a rule that I avoid male friends as much as possible, because there has been not many men in my life that would have been JUST friends. But I do have few reliable male friends who are not gay. And I can trust them as friends because they are not really in to me

am nodding big style at this comment

could be called the 'waiting for a better offer' philosophy of life

*or some may say - waiting for the right offer *

It could be called like that, felicity!

The life is too short to wait (otherwise I'd be a nun) your dreams come true - you'll have to make your dreams alive.

In some cases the older you get the more you loose your flexibility from your own manners to accept someone elses manners.

But I wish you best of luck with your point of view!

I know women and men that are over their 40's or 60's that have been waiting all their lives! And I know men that have been really down because they ARE intereseted in a certain woman and the woman seems not to notice them at all and she goes to marry someone else and these men can't start any other serious relationship in their lives because they keep on dreaming about this certain woman, to whom they have ever told about their feelings.

hey hey hey - I didn't mean it was MY personal point of view, far from it in fact

I have just observed it in others

Yep - I got it, but I forget to edit my post this time!

I actually got the joke in that I never usually get them but someone confirmed it to me that I was right. wahey!

If I 'like' someone I never really tell them so therefore wouldn't do the whole bombarding with text/phone call etc thing because if you aren't sure it might be annoying. I'd like to think that I can realise if someone doesn't like me... on the Internet it can be slightly more difficult but there are a couple of people on forums I know definitely don't from a few different things. I don't really care though, more important things.