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Yes, there is a lot wrong with the internet, but theer is a lot of good too-for example, I enjoy talking to all of you pretty much everyday now.

My sister-in-law's computer was intended for educational use, unfortunately she has abused our trust in her, she was warned several times about it and so has had it taken away completely.

Still got her mobile fone, she got a few really disgusting messages last night from another lad she's met off the net, I dont know how she can be stopped from doing this random text thing....Think I might sit her down in front of the news one night...and see even people you trust can harm you never mind someone you know nothing about. It makes me angry, but its also very worrying, at the moment shes grounded but how do you stop her from carrying it on at a friends house?

It's very worrying I aggree.
My PC is in the dining room witch is open plan with the kitchen so when my 11 year old daughter goes online, she is always in full view.
She doesn't do chat rooms-she's quite sensible and understands the dangers. All she does really is look at Buffy websites, plays online games, searches for song lyrics and talks to friends who she already knows on MSM Messenger. She's more into using the PC offline, writing stories, and practising stuff she's learnt at school.
They boy next door on the other hand, (12 years old) used to enter email addresses at random on his Messenger. It was like he had a competition to see how many contacts he could have. He would invite my daughter into his conversations with complete strangers, so I made her block him, which she didn't mind doing because he is a bit of an idiot anyway. I tried to warn him that he was being irresponsible, I even told his mum, who didn't see the problem until he was sent a virus that messed up their whole PC.
Someone also hacked into his profile and changed it to something really horrible and perverted.
He even spoke to someone who sent him a picture of the singer Mandy Moore who said it was a picture of them, which he believed.
When I pointed out to him that it said 'Page 66' at the bottom of picture he replied ''that's the name of the studio where she had the pic taken''!
It just goes to show how gullible children can be, so therefore I think children should be supervised and well informed.
Trouble is with kids today, they think they know everything.

I think probably you are going to have to have a big heart to heart chat with your sister in law Obo. Good luck! I don't know what you can do about the mobile phones because many use them for safety reasons only. The way you could do it is by limiting the money she uses for the phone and checking each day how much money has been spent by her usage and inform her that the phone is only used for emergencies only and to phone home and nothing else. Unfortunately you wouldn't be able to stop messages coming through. You might be able to ask if you could change her number at least that would stop those who have number at the moment from sending her any new messages. But this might cost money and it’s a shame you may have to do this.

I agree that computers should be kept in place were parents are able to see what the children get up to either in the dining room or a living room as suggested by HappyDaiz.

I was just wondering with everything happening at the moment do you think the government should take a tighter control with our emails and be more alert to what is passing through them. I am for liberty but with the child porno thing that has been going on I am starting to think that the government should be allowed more access. I personally don’t have anything to hide, I do send emails off to mates that might sound a bit daft from time to time and if anyone ever got them they would probably laugh. But that is about it, I am willing for them to read my email even though it could cause me a few blushes if it helps to stop child abuse.

At the end of the day it is down the the parent / guardian to police the use of the computer, which unfortunately my mother-in-law knows nothing about, she says whenever she walks into the room the computer screen goes blank!! Which says to me that the little sod is up to no good!

Shes very crafty with it all though if shes texting someone and her mum asks her who it is she says its a friend that she's allowed to hang out with or one of us lot...it doesnt help that they live right on the border of one of the roughest estates in our area, so shes mixing with kids that are doing this all the time and their parents couldnt care less as long as they arent bothering them (sad but true)!

She also blames other kids for texting random people on her phone I dunno whether its best to only let her have access to a mobile when shes in and being supervised or when shes out for security!!

KIDS EH??.......I just dont know what the answer is.....I shouldnt have to deal with this I'm only 25 myself and I decided not to have kids so I wouldnt have the worry and responsibility!! FAT CHANCE with a 14 year old sister in law to deal with!!!