gerbilgranny wrote:
I did my best to subscribe to all that 'making certain voices does help a human being to deal with for example pain'....I even read books about imagining I was a flower, opening up in the sunshine. I tried the breathing, and all the lovely thoughts....but when push came to shove (literally), I concluded that 'It's bloody torture'. So I'm afraid that when I had my second child, I made sure that I had none of that 'natural' stuff. I opted for an epidural, and I'm sorry, but concluded that it was indeed 'civilised'.
If 'natural' works for you, women, then that's great...but it's a lucky woman who finds that breathing, or making certain voices conquers the pain.
It (usually) hurts (a lot)...but medical science can alleviate the pain.
So much for me being an earth mother. I did it once....once was enough.
Yeah, my sister practised hypnosis with her son's father (a licenced therapist) during her labour, you know; "the red ball of pain reduces to a blue ball of comfort" and all that crap. She said it worked on the early stages, but at the point where it all gets dark and really horrible, the red ball just exploded
I got an epidural during both of my labours, and still struggled to keep concious due to the amount of pain. "Organic" labour? Not for me thank you. I don't feel any less of a woman or a mother having used painkillers during my labour, I've done my time as much as anyone. I'm glad I stayed somewhat concious to remember it all.
As for the "victims of religion", I agree with you GG. I have faith in many things, most of all I believe in humanity and the good that lies in everyone of us (except for my sister's ex-boyfriend

). Any religion that starts giving specific instructions like "give birth in silence and don't talk to the baby for a week, oh, and please make a huge donation to the church" is bogus imo. Faith is something that lies inside oneself, it doesn't take a huge sum of money to believe in something. Money can't buy redemption, forgiveness and love. In another hand, everyone may live their lives as they wish as long as they don't hurt others, and if beeing a scientologist or what ever makes a person happy and content, by all means, go for it. I can imagine there are crazier things in life.