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...to ask somebody out?



Encountering the girl of our dreams is often not that easy, or at least it hasn't been for me. Now that I think I might have, I seem to be unable to function properly (no jokes please lol) or make the simplest suggestion that we meet up/go out/have fun etc. How bizarre. I feel like a gawky teenager...

So how do we manage to operate in the real world? I seem to be able to keep my finances in order, keep to deadlines (mostly), run a house and a car and all manner of other vital parts of life - but this has got me floored.



Dopey or what.

So why are things like this so difficult?

is it charley?

you'll have to wait till she out the house, then ask her

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

LOL

Thanks for cheering me up.

It sounds like love if you feel like that Cameron! As I'm not a bloke, I'm afraid I can't help you, but I can imagine how you must feel.

I suppose it depends on the circumstances and how well you know her etc. Do you know what she likes doing e.g going for a meal, going to the theatre etc?

fear of rejection?

If you can tell yourself that you will be ok if she says no then maybe that would give you the confidence to ask.

Of course hopefully she will say yes anyway! But I think nothing good ever happens to people unless they step outside their comfort zone sometimes.

Good luck!

but if you're okay about them saying no, then that shows that you're not that bothered about them in the first place.

Whilst there are times in my life where no doubt it would have been easier, I'm quite happy about it being a big deal asking someone out. I know when its not been an issue for me, I've tended to be a bit of a **** towards them.

I think it boils down to fear of rejection, embarrassment, making yourself vulnerable, all those things that take us out of our comfort zone.


Not to mention the fact that it's bloody dissapointing if they say no!

Good luck Cameron.

Have you got this person's number Cameron?

Send her a filthy suggestive text...works for me

we could give suggestions.

try

''I'm a virgin fish trader, wanna see my tackle? ''

It boils down to a lack of confidence for me but I struggle like mad as well Cam. Mainly cause whenever I meet a girl I really like, I always feel as though they are so far out of my league that they ain't gonna say yes no matter hwo you do it.

It's unbelievably hard, especially when said girl is on your mind 24/7.

A few thoughts from me, who's been there, done that, and had a whole wardrobe of greying t-shirts to prove it...

I suppose (at least when I was single) it was a little different for females...we didn't usually ask guys out. Had to let them think it was all their idea...but of course it wasn't...



I'm not sure that we can say it's love, even if we find that the said girl/boy/whatever is on our minds, 24/7 - we are often at the mercy of our biology, programmed to find people very attractive. Sometimes it's just 'cos they are completely stunning, sometimes they remind us of a former love, sometimes they remind us of our parent (perish the thought, we'd say, but it does happen, more often than we'd like to think!)...

A long long time ago, I was convinced that Mr X was the one for me. It felt like love to me - I was completely floored...my friends noticed a change in me 'oh you're glowing, it must be love'...(it could have been all the exercise I was doing, the make up I'd invested in, the new haircut, all done to try and impress Mr X)...well, it never happened with Mr X, and it wasn't love, but good old-fashioned infatuation.

I think there's a fair bit of truth in the saying that fortune favours the brave, and agree that when we step outside our comfort zone, we open ourselves up to better things....

So I'd say to anyone 'go for it...give it a try'...but don't let anyone take up too much of your time/thoughts/emotions, if you're not going to do something about it....

I hope I'd take my own advice...if I was in that situation. However, I suspect I wouldn't!

As always, I believe that we end up regretting what we didn't do, not what we did...even if things don't work out like we hoped, we can always put it down to experience.

Anything to say for yourself Merx?

I'm not Merx....but..



agree with that gg, although sometimes the risk feels so high it takes a long time to take.

Without support from people on this forum however, I would never have had the courage to write to someone after Christmas and ask him out for coffee. We met, there wasn't a spark, but if I hadn't taken the jump, I would still be wondering what to do, six months down the line, and it would be driving me mad (as it was doing at the time).

Not sure that story is particularly helpful as it didn't work out . I suppose the point is that the risk was taken, even if the result wasn't quite the one I wanted!

But all the best Cameron and we all want invites to the wedding

GO FOR IT CAMERON, if you don't you will regret it for a long long time. I speak from experience

The first move is always difficult but it must be made BY YOU !!!

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